To figure out what you love, it is helpful to examine your “likes.” Everyone is familiar with the phrases “to know her is to love her” and “to know him is to love him.” Exploring your own list of likes—getting to know yourself— has the potential to increase the love in your life. You might also want to consider how you define love. A working definition of love might be any time you feel that special positive feeling. Identifying the “likes” that induce that feeling can be helpful.
An exercise that allows you to practice this is listing on a large sheet of paper all of your likes including things like sunsets, Facebook likes, and, of course, people! Start by brainstorming, which means avoiding details, practical consideration and quibbles. Stay in the moment and just do it. After creating your list, you may want to consider which of these things you would like to explore further and enjoy more of? Note also that many friendly relationships are often activity based. Knowing what you like can help you find more friends who share the same “likes.”